The Weight You Carry Was Never Meant to Be Yours.
Most coaching asks you to climb higher. I help you perform the vertical descent. We go beneath the strategy and the performance to release the soul level burdens and ancestral beliefs that have kept you in flight. It is time to stop the climb and finally land.
What this work has been like for others
In their words
“The depth and commitment of care that Paul embodies is truly unique. He lives in a genuine state of integrity and curiosity with everyone he encounters. It’s his grounded openness that has allowed me to feel safe enough to bring forth parts of me that I hadn’t seen before - to be with and gain powerful reflections on. To simply call Paul a coach or facilitator would be understating his innate, holistic ability to support others in transformation. I’ve learned more in five months with him at my side than I had in the previous five years.” - Doug S. (Lisbon, Portugal)
"Paul has a way of creating safety simply by being present. In spaces where vulnerability with other men once felt dangerous to me, he made it possible to slow down, to be silent, and to look honestly at what was happening beneath the surface, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. He listens deeply. Not just to what is said, but to what is avoided. He hears the stories we tell ourselves and the truths we resist. When needed, he meets those places with warmth and compassion. When needed, he brings clear and grounded tough love. In years of self-exploration, Paul has been the first male mentor and guide who never tried to push me into a better version of myself. Instead, he showed me that there is always one small, honest step available. If you are called to explore what lives within you, he is a profoundly safe man to do that with."
"I’ve been working with Paul for many months through coaching, breathwork, and our shared men’s group. His calm, grounded, and open presence creates a deep sense of trust. With his heart-led approach, gentle humor, and the ability to ask the right questions, he supported me in reconnecting with myself and to find happiness again. He has always been there for me and I’m grateful to have Paul not only as a coach, but also as a friend."
“Paul is an amazing breath-work facilitator and space holder with deep integrity in his craft. I’ve worked with him in men’s groups as well as 1-on-1 sessions. He is able to hone in on people’s energy and leaves no one behind. I would highly recommend working with him if you need support in your personal development journey.”
“The depth and commitment of care that Paul embodies is truly unique. He lives in a genuine state of integrity and curiosity with everyone he encounters. It’s his grounded openness that has allowed me to feel safe enough to bring forth parts of me that I hadn’t seen before - to be with and gain powerful reflections on. To simply call Paul a coach or facilitator would be understating his innate, holistic ability to support others in transformation. I’ve learned more in five months with him at my side than I had in the previous five years.” - Doug S. (Lisbon, Portugal)
"Paul has a way of creating safety simply by being present. In spaces where vulnerability with other men once felt dangerous to me, he made it possible to slow down, to be silent, and to look honestly at what was happening beneath the surface, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. He listens deeply. Not just to what is said, but to what is avoided. He hears the stories we tell ourselves and the truths we resist. When needed, he meets those places with warmth and compassion. When needed, he brings clear and grounded tough love. In years of self-exploration, Paul has been the first male mentor and guide who never tried to push me into a better version of myself. Instead, he showed me that there is always one small, honest step available. If you are called to explore what lives within you, he is a profoundly safe man to do that with."
"I’ve been working with Paul for many months through coaching, breathwork, and our shared men’s group. His calm, grounded, and open presence creates a deep sense of trust. With his heart-led approach, gentle humor, and the ability to ask the right questions, he supported me in reconnecting with myself and to find happiness again. He has always been there for me and I’m grateful to have Paul not only as a coach, but also as a friend."
“Paul is an amazing breath-work facilitator and space holder with deep integrity in his craft. I’ve worked with him in men’s groups as well as 1-on-1 sessions. He is able to hone in on people’s energy and leaves no one behind. I would highly recommend working with him if you need support in your personal development journey.”
THE REALITY
The cost of performance
You are the man everyone counts on. You are the fixer who holds the world together while your own system is silently leaking life force. You have built an incredible architecture of success but you are inhabiting it as a ghost. You feel as though you are hovering three inches off the floor, sustained by adrenaline and the sheer energetic will of your internal Manager of Momentum.
This is not a mindset issue. It is a soul level displacement. You are operating at a high altitude of mental activity to avoid the density of the ground. In this state of flight, you are carrying the frequency of old stories and the heavy weight of ancestral expectations that do not belong to you. You are exhausted not because of what you are doing, but because of what you are carrying.
The invisible grid.
You have created an Iron Grid of responsibility and protection to keep the world out and your own shadows at bay. But the bars that keep you safe are the same ones that keep you isolated. Standard coaching and talk therapy only rearrange the furniture inside this grid. They do not remove the bars.
True power is not found in the performance of strength. It is found in the reality of presence. My work is designed for the man who is done with the maintenance of the grid and is ready to perform the vertical descent. It is for the man who is ready to clear the energetic debris of his past and finally land in the life he has already built.
About Paul
Guidance Found in the Fire
I did not learn this work in a classroom. I found it in the collapse of my own performance. For years, I was the pillar for everyone else while my own soul remained unanchored. I built the grids and maintained the flight until the weight became unsustainable.
I work at a level of depth that skips the fluff of traditional coaching. I am not here to teach you a theory or give you a map for a new mountain. I am here to facilitate an energetic clearing of the debris that has gathered over decades. I work with the frequency of your system to find where you are tethered to the past. I do not just see your success. I see the man beneath it who is waiting to land.
How i work
From performance to presence
Most coaches work on the Horizontal Plane. They want to optimise your habits, fix your schedule, and make you a better version of the same tired man. This is just more maintenance for the Iron Grid.
My work is Vertical. We work energetically and somatically. We go into the marrow of your experience to find the tethers that keep you from your true power. We do not just talk about the soul. We clear the debris that prevents it from landing. This is not about self improvement. It is about soul level integration.
The Four Pillars
1.Identify
We begin by locating the energetic tethers that keep you in a state of high altitude flight. This is a deep audit of your current existence. We identify the internal structures such as the Manager of Momentum and the Iron Grid that have been running your system for decades. We look at the architecture of your avoidance and where your soul is leaking energy to maintain the performance.
2. Witness
To witness is to move from the narrative into the direct experience. We create a container where your internal flight crew can finally be seen without judgement. You begin to witness the terrified protectors who believe that if you land, you will be crushed. By staying with the internal noise until it turns into ground, we witness the density of the weight you carry.
3. Acknowledge
Acknowledgement is the bridge to landing. We move beyond simple intellectual understanding to a visceral recognition of the parts that have protected you. We acknowledge the hard work of your protectors and the heavy frequency of the ancestral beliefs you have inherited. This step allows the internal system to soften its grip so it is finally safe to begin the descent.
4. Release
This is the final stage of the shedding. We move beyond talk to discharge the stored weight of old stories and the energetic debris held in your field. Through deep energetic clearing and the work of the descent, we remove the tethers to allow your true frequency to emerge. You leave as an unburdened man who has performed the vertical descent and found his own ground.
The Initial Inquiry
This is not a sales call. It is a moment of truth to see if you are ready to be unburdened. We will look at the weight you are carrying and determine if you are ready to stop the flight and begin the landing. If you are tired of the performance and ready for the shift, let us speak.
WAYS TO WORK together
A place to put the weight down
I offer different paths to engagement depending on your current capacity and the specific burdens you are ready to release. Each container is designed to be a sacred space where the focus is on your energetic reality and the pace of your own landing.
The Individual Descent
This is a dedicated space for profound individual depth. We move beyond the surface of your success to identify the specific energetic weights you are carrying and build a path toward total unburdening. This is ideal for the man who feels overloaded or alone and needs a private, consistent place to land. We focus on your unique frequency at a pace that allows for true soul level integration.
The Focused
Intensive
For the man who has intellectual insight but remains stuck in his head. This is a shorter and more concentrated energetic experience designed to help you break through a specific block in your field. We get straight to the core of what is unsettled so you can stop the mental loops and start trusting your body again. It is a powerful way to find immediate clarity and begin the process of the vertical descent.
The Sacred
Gateway
Expansive experiences offer profound depth but they require a grounded container to be truly transformative. I help you prepare the internal ground before a journey to ensure your system is ready for the shift. Afterward, we work to translate those energetic insights into your daily life. This work is about safety and meaning making to ensure your experiences lead to a permanent shedding of old stories.
Collective
Ground
For the man who is tired of surface level connection and the performance of the social mask. These are small and vetted groups of men working through the same energetic challenges. There is no performance and no forced vulnerability. This is about being around other men in an honest and steady way. It is a space to be seen without being fixed while building a genuine and low pressure connection to the ground.
Not sure where to start?
The best way to find the right path is a simple conversation. We can talk about where you are right now and which of these options feels like the most natural fit for your life.
FOR DEEPER WORK
The Extended Descent
Some moments ask for more time and deeper attention. These extended sessions offer a dedicated one to one space for those who feel overwhelmed or at a significant soul level turning point. This is for the man who senses something important that needs room to be met. These days are especially supportive when clarity feels out of reach or when the emotions you are carrying are layered and complex.
We move gently through the day staying close to the energetic reality of your experience. There is no fixed structure and no expectation to perform. We use the tools and approaches that best serve your intention in that moment always guided by presence and care. This work supports times of transition or integration after intense experiences when you need uninterrupted space to listen deeply and regain a sense of steadiness and direction.
The pace is unhurried. The focus is grounded. We take the time that is needed for the soul to land.
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